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The TraVerus Travel business is all about developing great personal relationships. People buy people. The value of the proposition is greatly increased when people care about who they are doing business with. Although the business presentation is an important part to the success of any company, the relationships that TraVerus builds with their client places them amoung the best in the industry.

The most successful businesses spend the majority of their time building and maintaining a great relationship, as well as creating leveraging tools to handle the administrative work. You can never expect technology to replace relationship building. In no way can you expect technology to deliver customers to your doorstep. Technology can help find potential prospects, help deliver the marketing message, and help confirm personal communications. But technology fails when attempting to automate personal relationship building.

At TraVerus Travel we never attempt to automate personal interviews regarding the prospect`s goals, dreams and aspirations with sterile questionaires. Nothing can replace the one-on-one conversations that dynamically take shape based on the responses to the questions. TraVerus Travel strives to develop personal relationships.

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The old saying “Tis better to give then to receive” is very true in network marketing. Because the essence of network marketing is all about sharing information, a product or a business opportunity with another. The successful individual understands that these people are now your teammates. Your success will depend on the success that they have as individuals. This is why network marketing is sometime referred to as relationship marketing.

At TraVerus Travel, we understand that it is the relations we build that have made us so successful. It is an obligation I enjoy being a part of. It’s all about building a winning team.

Joint venturing can be a great way to promote your products as well as others, but there are guidelines you should follow when you are trying to establish some kind of business partnership. Especially if you are new to the game and you want to do business with someone who has been around awhile.
So, after you have done your research and you have found a few people that are really going to be great possible JV partners to help launch your product or service, I would highly recommend that you first do something for them. So, don’t email or phone asking them to promote your stuff just yet. Instead, I would do things a little bit differently, by doing what you want them to do for you, first. What I mean by that is I would highly suggest going and signing up for their programs and selling their products to your list.
Now, you don’t have to do that, but that’s something to really think about if you want to get them to mail out for you. It shows them you believe in their product and want to help them succeed just as much as you want them to help you succeed.
After promoting their product to my list then I’d contact them. What I would do is say, “Hey, look, I’ve just signed up for your affiliate program and I’ve just started selling a couple of things. I really want to promote you a lot more because I believe in what you do”. Then mention your product: “…By the way, I have just finished creating a product of my own and I was wondering if you would be interested in taking a look at it and possibly helping me out… ” – You’d say something along those lines.
You can either email them with that request, or you can simply pick up the phone and call them. It really depends upon you. Do what feels most comfortable to you. But you need to realise that if they don’t answer or they say no, just keep on trying. Never stop at no, be tenacious without being overbearing and eventually you should develop some rapport with at least a few of them.
So, just keep on focusing on what you’ve got going on and when you come across a good JV opportunity try mailing for them first and then ask them to mail for you. Sow first, reap later.

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When using B2B websites (such as EasyTrade.com) one aspect of business that is paramount and should not be neglected is proper communication. Proper communication can give your business the edge compared to other businesses out there. Here are some communication tips to remember when working with a trading partner.
If you are a seller, try to lay out exactly what you are selling, as clear as possible. Keep in mind that others will be selling similar products. If your product description is too vague, buyers might pass you over for who has the information on the exact product they want.

If you are a buyer, knowing exactly what you want and communicating that information to they seller when you first contact them will significantly help you cut down on your time going over various products of the seller and dealing with superfluous follow up e-mail. The sooner both of you know what you want, the sooner you can both move on to the next step.

When working with a new partner for the first time, it’s important to keep in touch with them and check up with them, sometimes even if there are no updates. Your partner should know that you are still interested, that you are still working on things, and should feel free to let you know about any updates that have occurred.
It is important to establish a working relationship with your business partner, both for buyers and sellers. Reliable partners are important to have; looking for new partners entails more effort in researching the partner, researching them and developing a working relationship. It is important to therefore keep in contact with those that you have worked with in the past, even if you have no current business occurring. Be sure to touch base every so often, and keep each other updated.
Good working relationships can also be useful for networking. Once you have built up a relationship with a trading partner, you may be able to learn about other trading partners through them, or recommend them to people you may know.
Be sure to continue to work on your communication skills, as the benefits for your business will be strong and widespread.

What Business to Business (B2B) Websites Can Do For You

So, you have set up a trading business, and have begun to make some connections with clients and/or suppliers. Things are going well at first, but you hit a wall – where do you go from here? Or perhaps you are trying to begin your trading business, but you don’t know where to start. How do you start searching for trading partners?

There are several ways of finding suitable trading partners. Networking is very important, and you might catch a luck break trying to contact various companies directly. However, one important method for finding trading partners that should not be overlooked is using business to business (B2B) trading sites, such as EasyTrade.com. B2B sites are particularly useful, since they allow you to find many different business partners who are both interested in finding someone to trade with and actively searching for partners themselves.

The importance of a B2B site is both in being able to search through a database of potential trading partners, as well as being able to advertise your company for others who are looking for trading partners. This allows you to contact many interested companies, as well as to advertise your own.

Since B2B websites contain thousands of potential business partners, they provide a great opportunity, but the multitude of companies also means that you should work hard on making yours stand out. Good communication with business partners is important, as is making sure that the information you have posted on the website is clear, informative, concise, and up to date. By keeping your profile information as informative and up to date as possible, you will have an edge over other companies. Buyers want to know what it is they will be buying before they start contacting potential sellers. If many different sellers offer the same type of product, they may only contact those who they see specifically carries what they are looking for, or who they find to be the most informative.

Be sure to learn how B2B sites can help you, and your business will certainly benefit.

There isn’t a person alive who, at some stage in their life, faces the pain and suffering involved when a relationship breaks down. But when it happens to you, it seems as if your life will never be good again. The high charged emotions that fill your head prevent you from doing even the simplest task. The constant feeling of loss and emptiness deep in the stomach aches more than any hunger can.

When things go wrong, when the tears finally dry up, how do you go about rebuilding your life or your relationship? How do you salvage what is left? How can you learn to trust, to love them again?

When someone has passed away into the hereafter it is too late to be able to recover your lost love, and sometimes the only way forward is to learn how to let go in the knowledge that no true love is ever lost, only the experience of physically seeing and touching has been removed from you.

If your love clearly walks away and will not engage in dialogue, then what has taken place between you has torn you apart and resulted in irreconcilable breakdown of your relationship. The result may be permanent estrangement, divorce, and being forced to create a new life out of the ashes of the old one.

The period of mourning that takes place during separation and loss seems to never end. It is only when you have passed through various stages of loss that you are able to rebuild your life. If you become locked into any of the stages of recovery you will be unable to shift yourself from your grief, and in hanging on to past love you are cheating yourself, (and their memory) of the opportunity to move forward and grow from the experience. Yes, by allowing yourself to grow and move on you are in fact cherishing their memory and honouring their life and the good things that you shared.

But what if, like thousands and thousands of people, you exist in a relationship with someone that you truly love and care for, but things are not going too well. One of you, or both of you are unhappy and suffering. Things are slowly grinding you down, becoming impossible for you to live in harmony, affecting the whole family?

I have built this series of relationship help and support e-books and courses based on my experience of over 25 years as a Psychologist offering counselling and support to my clients. I have drawn on my knowledge and study of methods that bring people together, help them work through their difficulties and problems and find solutions that can assist them to rebuild their lives, their loves and their experiences so that they can find peace and harmony in their lives,

I am sure that you will find the content of these helpful to you. Please feel free to raise any queries or discuss your experiences of using this material in our chat rooms where you may gain support from others who find themselves in a similar situation to yourself.

Wishing you peace and love.

Angela Saunders,
The U.K’s Leading ‘Relationship Doctor’, can be found at: www.relationshiphotline.com
Your Relationship Help Starts Here.

Angela Saunders is a Chartered Psychologist who has over 25 years experience in counselling and problem solving. She has worked with individuals and companies to improve relationships and understanding, teaching how to overcome conflict and the effects of change. Her expertise has led her to work with some of the UK’s leading corporates and she has appeared on popular television chat shows and national and local radio stations. Angela has been a regular contributor to press room content.

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Deep-seated emotions that have suffered damage will certainly affect your outlook on future relationships and thus your attitude toward them.
Some things to look out for and be mindful of when it comes to your view on relationships includes:

• Do you stereotype men?
• Do you believe relationships are doomed to eventually fail?
• Do you sabotage your relationships?
• Despite past disappointments, can you maintain an optimistic view of the future?

We can all be guilty at times of stereotyping the opposite sex. Sometimes it’s just done in good humour, based rather loosely on some very general truths. Stereotyping in jest is pretty harmless fun. Serious stereotyping, however, is a more critical matter when it comes to relationships. It can distort one’s views on reality, and at times blind you to the reality of the person you are dating and what they are truly like.
Try to avoid stereotyping; particularly of negative facets of a gender. No one likes to be presumed guilty before being proven innocent.
Having preconceived, negative views on the future of your relationships is an unhealthy outlook. True, many relationships do fail. But many don’t. Take note of elderly couples as a prime example. The more deeply you know yourself and the better you know what you want will all go a long way in attracting the right man for you. And if you meet the right guy, there is no plausible reason why the relationship can’t grow into a long and fulfilling union.
Some people have a habit of self-destructing. Consciously or subconsciously – and quite a common occurrence too, I discovered in the survey process for this book – many people have a tendency to sabotage their relationships, and therefore their happiness.
Why do people do this?

• An unfortunate bad habit
• The past rearing its ugly head
• A fear of happiness and fulfillment
• A fear of being hurt

Although all of the above are pertinent to this issue, the most common reason was a fear of being hurt. A need for one partner to sabotage the relationship and bring it to an end before the other partner could possibly do anything to hurt them. The timing of this relationship break down practice is interesting too. Usually the sabotaging takes place just at the moment the fearful partner is really starting to feel deep emotions for the other person. Self-preservation kicks in, driven by a deep-seated fear of being hurt and the vulnerability that goes with caring for someone beyond mere interest or infatuation.
If you suffer from this affliction, it is something that seriously needs to be addressed if you are to hope for a happy and contented future. Seeking some professional counseling may be required.
In the event that you have suffered hurt and pain in your relationship past, do you have the ability to maintain an optimistic outlook for your relationship future?
Obviously it is important that you do. Gain confidence and reassurance from the fact that you have learned from your mistakes, you now know yourself better and have a firmer grasp on what you are looking for in a partner.

The above article is an excerpt from the author`s book “Turn Me On: How To Attract A Man” by Darren G. Burton. To view or purchase a copy, visit:
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Skype me please!

Online dating has become such a huge part of our lives nowadays. It seems rare to find couples who haven’t met via the internet. For a lot of couples though, online dating has come at a price. Enduring a long distance relationship where only the willing few were able to make it on the road to marriage. But for those who did make it, the test was well worth it.

Dating Thai girls abroad

There is something you should remember when dating a girl from another country. For a great deal of the time you will have to go through the trials and tribulations of long distance dating. This even applies after getting married (unless of course you decide to live in the wife’s country). Because of the strict visa laws of the US, UK, Europe, Australia, Canada, NZ etc., your new life might be put on hold for up to 6 months or a year. The theory is that if you love your wife, you can wait. But that apart, (excuse the pun) how do we continue dating from long distances like Thai girls from Chiang Mai for example? The answer is not easy and it takes devotion, resignation and patience even for the strongest willed man. I spoke to Jim Thompson from Alabama, a few months ago about his ordeal of dating and marrying an online Thai bride. He married a beautiful Thai girl several years ago when long distance communication was nigh on impossible, Thai infrastructure wasn’t developed enough for all to have access to the internet and it made life very hard sometimes. But although they had dated for 2 years before they married, love finally overcame, says Jim and Bee. The main thing to watch says Bee is the loneliness gauge as she calls it, “sometimes I went out with my friends and their partners, they were all so lovey-dovey that an unbelievable feeling of loneliness came over me. It got so bad sometimes I really felt like calling our engagement off” says Bee. Another thing they both remarked upon was the jealousy factor. Bee would try to call Jim on an international phone line at 1 am Saturday or Sunday morning just to make sure he was home. Niggling thoughts of jealousy would creep in even if the tv was on and the sound of a girls voice sounded through the phone. Jim not usually being a jealous type also had nasty surprise one day when he called her up only to find a male voice answering. It turned out to be her brother. These are the tiny seeds of envy and jealousy that could easily undo a strong relationship, says Jim. Being totally honest and careful not to create any feelings of suspicion, no matter how insignificant it may seem, is most important in maintaining a stable relationship. “We had a great orderly online dating relationship” recalls Bee, “We had a call session five times a week, where I’d call him twice and he’d call me three times a week, and when skype arrived on the scene about a year later, things got even easier for us. We chatted every day, we ate together, played online games together and even had cyber -sex!” giggles Bee.

Online dating agencies like sweetsingles.com tells us that relationships like these are very common nowadays and with the aid of internet access, more and more people are turning to dating girls online. It’s one of the fastest growing industries and it’s a business that not only helps guys and girls find their true love. It even helps the life-long shy sufferers overcome their fear of dating and meeting new women. And with footnote to that; Thai girls are still the number one most popular lady for online dating.

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Improve Your Business Relationships

If you already use Outlook, you may feel that it has everything you need. It has a calendar feature, it has a contact management feature, it has emailing capabilities and more. However, what if you could add extra features to Outlook to make it the ultimate contact management software program?

What if you could improve your business relationships and improve customer service by adding contact management to Outlook? Also, what if you could increase sales and profits with this great new addition? You can and many businesses are doing it by adding contact management software to Outlook. With better and more improved features, your customers will feel as though you truly care about their needs, you`ll never miss an appointment and you will sell and profit more than you ever thought possible. If your business isn`t using contact management with Outlook, you are already falling behind your competition.

Building Relationships

It doesn’t matter what industry you`re in or what your business sells, to remain competitive, you must acquire new clients and you also must retain the clients you already have. The advances in technology have made the world a lot smaller, which means that we can now reach more people than ever before. However, these advances have also made competition fierce.

If you`re not staying abreast, or exceeding, the capabilities of your competitors, then you are already out of the game. You will lose clients, you will miss out on new clients and your competitors will succeed while you fail to meet your daily, weekly, monthly as well as yearly goals. To stay ahead of your competition, you must work harder to build those client relationships and this can only be done by the most advanced version of contact management synced with Outlook.

When you meet a new client, you begin to glean information from them. This information should be stored in a way as to be immediately available whenever you need it. This will make your client feel as though they are your only client. That`s the key to having contact management with Outlook. No matter how many clients you have, each one should be made to feel special.

You should be able to pull up contact information, scheduling information, information about their business, how much business you`ve done with them, and possibly even birthday or anniversary information. Having all of this information at your fingertips will not only improve your relationships, but it will improve customer service and the client is much more likely to stay with you, and to continue to do business with you, when it comes to deciding between you and your competition.

Not All Software Is Built Equally

When looking for contact management software for Outlook, the software should be easy to use, it should have a user friendly interface, it should allow sales people to sync their information with sales managers and even other departments, and it should have every single piece of information right at your fingertips so that you can access it at a moment`s notice.
Don`t settle for anything less than the best. Read product reviews, do your own research and only choose the contact management software for Outlook that will enable you to surpass your clients` expectations. Only then will you succeed where your competitors fail and only then can you push your business to the height of the corporate world; which is the goal of any business, regardless of industry or sales inventory.

CRM Software

Avidian Software has the contact management software for Outlook that you`re looking for. The software from Avidian is extremely easy to use, which will cut down on training time and costs, it is easily shared between all departments and every piece of information you gather from every client will be accessible whenever you need it.
You`ll be able to sync databases, spreadsheets, documents, calendars and more. Contact management with Outlook software from Avidian will push you above and beyond your competition, leaving them behind while you acquire more clients and retain more clients than you ever expected. That`s the only way you should run your business and you should never settle for anything less.

Relationships between people, whether of a personal or a business nature, can be very delicate and must be continuously nurtured in order to preserve them. If tended well, they can provide long lasting security and an immense sense of belonging to a group or association.

Effective relationships within an organization are a necessity as wellbeing of the group or organization is reliant upon how well its members can work together and on how well the members of the organization work with management.

An ineffective group or organization can be really frustrating and may ask so much of their members that it impacts on their life outside of the organization. In order to meet deadlines, members may be foregoing their need to interact efficiently with their family members or to meet their own needs for relaxation in other ways. Thus, a group or organization may find that relationships will become stressed or break down. People or other entities who depend on these groups or organization also suffer.

Society is defined as a web of relationships, which requires all parties to work and contribute their share in order to achieve a common goal. Having a relationship that is good, where cooperation and respect are manifested, can make society work better. In this way each member works for the good of the whole and towards achieving a common goal. This can only be attained with effective and efficient relationships.

Understanding how the other party is feeling is important to creating an effective and efficient relationship. The easiest method to understand what is important to another party is to ask them what they want and listen to what they have to say. When the other party realizes that their feelings are important to you, they will be more trusting.

The open expression of feelings and needs by all parties to a relationship is paramount to the continuance of an efficient and effective relationship. Assuming that the other party understands our needs is not a good practice.

Another key factor in a relationship is respect. Respect is the very foundation for a great relationship. To build a productive and harmonious relationship, parties must treat one another with respect. This can be achieved by simply listening to the other party and by genuinely trying to understand how they function. You can also show respect to other parties by confirming that they are doing everything they can.

Differences in the parties can be quite interesting and needs to be tackled directly. These differences may lead to the formation of different perspectives when considering information pertinent to the relationship.

Try to work out a win-win solution for both parties

This can be done when at least one party acknowledges that the relationship is important. That party would then exert more time, effort and energy to understand the other party`s needs and deal with it to get it out of the way. Should they fail, it is comforting for that party to know that they tried.

Effective listening and no pre-judging. This is important if parties are to understand each other.

Informal discussions are conducive for parties. They bring out issues and concerns comfortably. They also feel more relaxed making them think more clearly.

Developing an atmosphere where the other party can express their feelings when they need to.

When parties fail to express whatever is on their mind or their feelings, it can get in the way of building an effective relationship.

Parties should be aware that certain things exist naturally but should be controlled in any dealings in any relationship. Human nature is one. Some of these things found in a relationship also include a history of stereotyping or mistrust, blaming the other person or party for a strained relationship, excluding the other party`s feelings when focusing on a task, no clear and defined objectives, roles and expectations of each party in a relationship is also unclear.

Relationships are important to anyone, addressing issues and problems right away is a must to further improve the relationship. As they say `No man is an Island`.

Anne Wolski has worked in the health and welfare industry for more than 30 years. She is the owner of http://www.mummansun.com, a discount retail outlet, and a co-director of http://www.betterhealthshoppe.com which is an information portal with many interesting medical articles. She is also an associate of http://www.timzbiz.com which features many articles on internet marketing and resources.

Anne Wolski has worked in the health and welfare industry for more than 30 years. She is the owner of http://www.mummansun.com, a discount retail outlet, and a co-director of http://www.betterhealthshoppe.com which is an information portal with many interesting medical articles. She is also an associate of http://www.timzbiz.com which features many articles on internet marketing and resources.

“Daddy” by Sylvia Plath is by right considered a magnificent poem about daughter’s relationship with a father. Also it can also be read as an allegory of female yielding and final revolt in a men’s world who have been responsible for all the disasters and wars of the twentieth century. In accordance with this poem women are oppressed and subdued in society by masculine priorities.

The male characters in this poem such as father, teacher, statue, gestapo officer, husband and vampire are created as leading and oppressive. The father appears as a strong, powerful and restrictive – god-like figure. The female character is constrained (‘black shoe/In which I have lived like a foot’) and unable to lead a full life (‘Barely daring to breathe or Achoo’) in his prevailling presence. This oppression is realised by the female character who decides that she must revolt against this male power that reject her control over her life (‘Daddy , I have had to kill you.’) The father is compared with the Nazi who takes the responsibility for the mass slaughter of Jews (‘I thought every German was you’) and the female character is depicted as the oppressed victim (‘I think I may well be a Jew’). Putting her father on the stage next to the Nazis, at the same time she puts women in the same position as the Jews, being exploited and violated. In this comparative portrayal men have the force to destroy women, to be the reason of their metaphorical deaths all within legitimate limits.

Plath uses the irony while depicting the stereotype of women who like abusive, strong men – ‘Every woman adores a Fascist,/The boot in the face, the brute/ Brute heart of a brute like you.’ – to show the inequality in the relationships between men and women. This irony justifies the male violence as being natural.

The refusal from power via silencing women, particularly seen through the try to articulate the ich (‘I’: It stuck in a barb wire snare./Ich, ich, ich, ich.’) and it shows the subordinate role of women in the men’s world.

The poem describes that the real power of the men is to make women give in to the dominant ideology, making their additional part of the natural order of the world. It is usually visible in sado-masochistic images (‘The boot in the face’, ‘And a love of the rack and the screw’) which make women to be responsible for their own additional role.

Women are made so that must be instructed by the wise males (‘You stand at the blackboard, Daddy’). Men are rational, while women are emotional (‘Bit my pretty are heart in two’), who commit suicide when they feel lonely and depressed. However, the female character is watching these unjust relationships, and sees her father-teacher figure as the devil (‘A cleft in your chin instead your foot/But no less a devil for that’). Then the father and husband are are called vampires (‘The vampire who said he was you/And drank my blood for a year’) who must be at last killed with a stake in the heart to return the female character her freedom.

The poem is full of the sense of suffocation felt by the female character towards her father and husband. The poem “Daddy” criticises the male aggression and depicts men being responsible for all the social injustices. The narrator depicts the discrimination of women but at the end of the poem she points out that females break free of these constraints.

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Why Aren`t We Happy In Our Marriage Relationships?
By: Dave Cole


My perfect mate would be…..a combination of:

Paris Hilton, Oprah Winfrey, Betty Crocker, Helen Hunt,
Helen Keller, Annie Oakley, Lucille Ball, Cindy Crawford,
Marilyn Monroe, Jennifer Lopez, Ann Landers, Angela
Lansbury, Martha Stewart, June Cleaver….plus
the best qualities of each of: my former girlfriends,
my current wife, my grandmothers, and my mom.

Take the qualities I like in each of those women, put
them all together into one, and you have my perfect
soulmate.

Now a woman like that`s not too hard to find is it?


What I (men in general) want from a woman would include:
a good sex partner and one who is willing to have
sex whenever I want, a companion to avoid loneliness,
housekeeper, mother of my children, a best friend,
someone to boost my ego, physical intimacy, spiritual
intimacy, a good conversationalist, attractive escort,
someone who will not judge or criticize me, someone who
leaves me alone when I want to be left alone, someone
who is fun to be around, yet quiet and humble, but
also bold and adventurous.

Someone who cooks my meals, and cleans my house and
changes diapers, and has a big income and is sexually
attractive and alluring doing it!!!

Now, if I were to put all the qualities I want in a
woman and then EXPECT this woman to be all of
the above and meet all my needs all the time
and in every way…..

Is there anyone reading this that fully agrees I
would be hard pressed to find such a woman to start
with, and does anyone agree that no woman could even
half begin to have all those qualities and further
to fill all those needs of mine?

Of course not!

So I have all these needs and desires and even more
than above, plus my needs and wants vary from time
to time and from event to event, yet for some odd
reason, I expect my wife to fulfill all of my needs
and even to have the ability to change and move with
my every whim and changing fancy and then react and
compensate accordingly.

And that doesn`t even take into account her individual
needs and changes and desires.

It`s actually quite ludicrous of me to even think
for a minute that one partner could meet all my
needs and fulfill all my desires and react as I think
they should and be all things to all people all the
time……

And yet, isn`t that one big reason why most of us
are un-happy in a relationship or marriage?

We somehow expect our partner to “know” what we
are thinking and feeling and then react and do the
things “we think they should be doing” at each and
every situation and circumstance.

And further, we would want our partner to be all things
to us at all times….then when it doesn`t happen
we get disappointed.

It was a major shock after I got married, expecting
my new wife to meet all my needs and desires, and
then woke up the next morning only to find I had
married a real human being with needs, opinions,
and desires of her own.

Can you imagine that?

It`s like my baseball team. If I expect one of
my players to be able to be a catcher, pitcher,
infielder, outfielder, plus be the best hitter…
one player that can do anything well and do it
all the time…. then I`m going to have an awfully
difficult time finding such a player.

Yet, for the most of us, we expect our partner to be
everything we ever wanted and to fulfill all our needs
and desires and whims and not complain doing and
also to do it without having to be told.


One of our biggest reasons why we are not having happy
marriages is because we expect our partner to be able
to fulfill and suit all our needs and do it on a
continual basis and be able to change and adapt
with each varying situation.

I can`t be all the things my wife needs at all times,
and I recognize that. It would drive me crazy even
trying to be somebody like that. And neither can
she be Betty Crocker and Ann Landers and Paris Hilton
and all of the above personalities rolled into one.

So wouldn`t it be much easier for me and better for
my relationship, to accept my partner`s limitations and
their strong points and not go around expecting her to
be everything I need all the time?

Wouldn`t that make it easier and better to have a
quality relationship if we didn`t expect our partners
to behave and be someone they`re not?

Perhaps if we accepted our partners as they were,
with all their flaws and imperfections and focused
a little more on their strong and good points, we would
all be happier in our relationships.


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Prosperity: The Choice Is Yours
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